I think the best way to say it is to be honest. You'll have to explain it all, or else she might misinterpret it or think you're being vague because you're not telling the truth!
What if you wrote her a letter so you had time to look over what you said?
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What if you wrote her a letter so you had time to look over what you said?
[Thinkin' like a schoolgirl here.]